This week's question comes from Stephanie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m reaching out because I feel really hurt and I really like the advice the two of you give.
After a few years of not dating at all I decided to put myself out there again and went on a couple dating apps and a dating site. My friends helped me with my profile and my pictures and I was feeling pretty good about all that.
Then the moment came when I published it all and waited to see the guys who would reach out to me.
The 2nd guy to ping me was super hot! I couldn’t believe my luck. We wrote back and forth a few times. Then we spoke on the phone a couple times. He had to leave town for work
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Get Ready for Love
Can I stay single and be happy?
This week's question comes from Iris:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I know that you two are soulmate coaches and that you probably don’t agree with me but I have to ask anyway. Can’t I just stay single and be happy with my life?
I’m so tired of yearning for a man to fix my life. I’m so tired of all the angst and drama of a relationship. None of my relationships have ever worked out and quite frankly I’m sick of dating.
I want to be happy single! I want to be happy without the worry that I’ve chosen wrong again.
Please help!”
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Dear Iris,
Thanks for reaching out to us and asking anyway. We think this is a great question!
We actually agree with you.
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Is There Love At First Sight?
This week's question comes from Kerri:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you two for years and I love watching you interact with each other. The love between you is so clear and not like anything I’ve ever seen especially after being together for so many years. I didn’t have good role models when it comes to relationships – it seems that both of my parents have had a hobby of collecting marriages.
Do you believe that Love At First Sight Exists?
I’ve recently met a fellow who I feel so attracted to and safe with and he is moving things forward quickly. I have doubts in my head – can I trust him? Is this real?
What do you think? Can we know “The One”
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Is There Something For You TO DO?
This week's question comes from Amanda:
"Hi O&M,
I’ve been a huge fan for many years, way back when you would host your Love On Purpose Revolution event. I have enjoyed seeing you two interact with each other. You give me hope that I can one day have what you have – a soul partnership.
I’m 47 years old and I haven’t been in a relationship for some time, could be over a decade since my last serious relationship. My friends tell me that I’m a catch, that my guy will find me and there is nothing that I need 'to do.'
What are your thoughts on this?
I am at a place in my life where I really value myself, I am confident, capable, and it’s not that I need a
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How Do I Stop Attracting the Wrong Man?
This week's question comes from Tami:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your work! I truly enjoy and have learned so much from your emails. I'm not dating at the moment; I'm in a bit of a self-imposed learning and recovery about my past relationships mode. When I am putting myself out there I either attract one of two kinds of men, the clingy, needy man or the player. I know… they are the opposite sides of the same coin. Both groups of these men are emotionally unavailable and very selfish. I hear you say all the time that I am the common denominator in all of my relationships… So, since I am the common denominator and the only one I can control or
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How Do I Get My Expectations Met?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
Hey Orna and Matthew, I have a quick question about expectations. I know that one should have a "no expectations" attitude towards those they love (family, friends, partners, etc.), but how do you distinguish expectations from standards and requirements?
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Dear Tiffany,
Great question! Let's just get right to it. Expectations are desires that are not expressed. We expect our man to be able to anticipate our needs. We expect our family to be supportive. We expect our close friends to be there when we need them. And then all of them at one time disappoint us. Expectations are the cause of so much suffering in
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