This week's question comes from Stephanie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m reaching out because I feel really hurt and I really like the advice the two of you give.
After a few years of not dating at all I decided to put myself out there again and went on a couple dating apps and a dating site. My friends helped me with my profile and my pictures and I was feeling pretty good about all that.
Then the moment came when I published it all and waited to see the guys who would reach out to me.
The 2nd guy to ping me was super hot! I couldn’t believe my luck. We wrote back and forth a few times. Then we spoke on the phone a couple times. He had to leave town for work
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Attract Your Soulmate
Dating in the workplace
This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
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Hi Jill,
Thank you for
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Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my
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Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for
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How do I stop dating jerks?
This week's question comes from Sandi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love the dating advice you give and hope, hope, hope that you can help me!
I just seem to be attracted to jerks and I’m sick of it. I’ve stopped dating altogether and have resigned myself to just being alone until I can figure this out.
My ex-husband was just mean to me in so many ways. He’d make fun of me or call me names. He had a nickname for me that was so not nice or sweet or kind! Always complained about my weight, etc.
I finally woke up and got rid of him, but since then all the men I’ve dated reveal themselves to be jerks at some point. They are demeaning, critical, selfish, and
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Is There Love At First Sight?
This week's question comes from Kerri:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you two for years and I love watching you interact with each other. The love between you is so clear and not like anything I’ve ever seen especially after being together for so many years. I didn’t have good role models when it comes to relationships – it seems that both of my parents have had a hobby of collecting marriages.
Do you believe that Love At First Sight Exists?
I’ve recently met a fellow who I feel so attracted to and safe with and he is moving things forward quickly. I have doubts in my head – can I trust him? Is this real?
What do you think? Can we know “The One”
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