This week's question comes from Mary:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been sitting on this question for you two for a while now because I’m not sure how to ask it or if you’d understand me. I know I’m a smart, sophisticated, and sensual woman and to put it bluntly, I’m exhausted.
I am tired of doing everything. I am the responsible one. I get shit done.
I’ve overcome a lot of adversity in my life. I pride myself on being resilient.
I’m the one everyone comes to when they need help. I’m capable – highly capable.
My adrenal glands are burnt out. I’ve crashed and burned. My health has suffered and my sanity has suffered.
I don’t want to be some passive meek
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Blocks to Love
Addicted to drama?
This week's question comes from Marybeth:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly love notes for years. There so much great information you two share. I love getting both a male and female perspective. Today I’m reaching out because despite the fact that I’ve done a lot of personal growth work on myself I can’t seem to settle in with a nice guy.
Everything starts off great, there’s chemistry, and I enjoy the getting to know each other part of the relationship, but then things get very boring for me. I get restless. I start thinking about my exes…. not that I want any of that drama back in my life.
My mind wanders… I start to wonder if there is
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Can I stay single and be happy?
This week's question comes from Iris:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I know that you two are soulmate coaches and that you probably don’t agree with me but I have to ask anyway. Can’t I just stay single and be happy with my life?
I’m so tired of yearning for a man to fix my life. I’m so tired of all the angst and drama of a relationship. None of my relationships have ever worked out and quite frankly I’m sick of dating.
I want to be happy single! I want to be happy without the worry that I’ve chosen wrong again.
Please help!”
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Dear Iris,
Thanks for reaching out to us and asking anyway. We think this is a great question!
We actually agree with you.
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Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for
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How do I stop dating jerks?
This week's question comes from Sandi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love the dating advice you give and hope, hope, hope that you can help me!
I just seem to be attracted to jerks and I’m sick of it. I’ve stopped dating altogether and have resigned myself to just being alone until I can figure this out.
My ex-husband was just mean to me in so many ways. He’d make fun of me or call me names. He had a nickname for me that was so not nice or sweet or kind! Always complained about my weight, etc.
I finally woke up and got rid of him, but since then all the men I’ve dated reveal themselves to be jerks at some point. They are demeaning, critical, selfish, and
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Why can’t I make love last?
This week's question comes from Leslie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m lucky in that I have no trouble getting dates or even finding men who want to be in a relationship with me. In fact, one of my friends brags that I could get just about any man to propose to me.
BUT… I can’t ever seem to make it last. I’ve been divorced for 10 years, have been proposed to by at least 7 men, and I am constantly dating.
I’m reaching out to you two because I never seem to find the “right” man. Either they are controlling and we fight like crazy, or the spark between us doesn’t last. I feel like I get bored so easily with them.
How do I find someone who I can grow
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