This week's question comes from Bonnie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly notes; I look forward to reading them every week. I really think you give the best dating advice. I’m not exactly sure of my question; I have been married and divorced now a long time. I have a successful business that I built from the ground up, yet and I can’t seem to figure things out in my love life.
My friends say I’m too picky and I don’t think that I am… I just don’t want to settle because I’ve been down that road before when I got married rather young and I don’t want to go through another divorce.
I know that I drive myself very hard. I have always done that. I was a
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Blocks to Love
No one gets a spiritual by-pass…
This week's question comes from Yvonne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew!
I love your weekly Love Notes! They are so inspiring. Thanks for this opportunity to get your advice. I do have a question.
How can I stay with appreciation and value for myself and for the other person even when I’m triggered? I know my core wound is about my worth and not feeling valued. How do I stay open-hearted for my own good, and give this man the opportunity to win with me?
I do my best to stay positive and not let my triggered feelings to get in the way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I feel so bad when I act out this way.
And if he's not able to win with me, let him go... so this or
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How Do I Create What I Want?
This week's question comes from Natalia:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all the love you have put into The Soulmate Shortcut, your generosity is so apparent in this book.
I will share with you what I found about my Love Imprint:
After going through about 1/3 of your book and reflecting on my life as a little girl it’s clear to me that my father was emotionally unavailable to me and also to my mother.
I think that my Love Imprint is unavailable men that I fear will bring division in my life. Either I don’t exist for them, or they don’t exist for themselves, or he is incompatible with my life. I am afraid that my therapy practice will suffer
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When am I ready to date?
This week's question comes from Laura:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me with a difficult situation.
I am starting a different career. I am tired, stressed, kind of needy, and don't feel at my best, although I do have "highs" and "lows." I don't know when it will go away. I have men still interested in me, but I don't want to date them because this isn't the "best me" yet. But I am torn as I would LOVE the opportunity for them to encourage me and talk to me – celebrate with me and cheer me up when needed, etc.
I have heard many different things – that if you wait until your life is "perfect" you'll never start, etc.
I love your programs
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How long should I wait?
This week's question comes from Rebecca:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thanks in advance for taking my question! I believe that I've met my soulmate but I feel confused about whether he's a romantic soulmate or a friend soulmate. We both feel a strong, unique, and romantic connection with one another but when we dated for a couple months last year it just didn't work.
This summer we spent more time together (not being physical at all) and agreed that we both really enjoyed it but when I express what I want (a deep relationship and partnership with someone) he continues to say he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with anyone right now. When we're both open
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How can I be more social?
This week's question comes from Lee Ann:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My last relationship ended almost 4 months ago. I'm finding that I have a strong tendency and desire to isolate. I feel really good when I'm completely alone with no demands on me, or pressure to do or be anything other than what and where I am at that time. And when the tough feelings come up, I'm able to be completely with them right away and love myself. When I go out to the store or for a walk, I'm happy to see people and smile, and it feels like I'm in a relaxed place of peace. But I'm worried that this isolating tendency with no desire to plan social get-togethers or go out socially isn't good for
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