This week's question comes from Joan:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I love your newsletter and read it regularly! You guys rock! I really hope you can help me out.
I’ve been dating a guy for a while and I’m not sure how to know if I should commit more deeply to him or not. He’s been in my circle of friends for a few years and reached out to me for a date.
I was flattered and know him to be a good guy so I said yes. He clearly likes me and I know he has good intentions so I want to give him a chance and it’s clear he wants to move things forward with me, and I’m not so sure…
There are a couple of issues that have me confused. First off, he is not my usual physical
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Lasting Love
How do I know when to commit?
This week's question comes from Zoe:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am a bit puzzled about the dating process. I have just started dating again, after an 18-year relationship. The person I dated twice is a very kind gentleman who likes me very much. I also like him and enjoy his company, although I am reluctant to date any further, as I feel I need to have more dating experiences with other people, given that I am new to the dating world. He has asked me about my likes, dislikes and to see if we are compatible with regards to various activities and I found that in general, I was. I feel that my other hesitation has to do with physical attributes and when he started to grab
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No one gets a spiritual by-pass…
This week's question comes from Yvonne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew!
I love your weekly Love Notes! They are so inspiring. Thanks for this opportunity to get your advice. I do have a question.
How can I stay with appreciation and value for myself and for the other person even when I’m triggered? I know my core wound is about my worth and not feeling valued. How do I stay open-hearted for my own good, and give this man the opportunity to win with me?
I do my best to stay positive and not let my triggered feelings to get in the way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I feel so bad when I act out this way.
And if he's not able to win with me, let him go... so this or
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The Power Of Intention
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your weekly notes; they always brighten my day and give me a new way to think about love and dating. As this year draws to a close, I’m wondering what I can do to start off 2017 to set myself up for success in love and all other areas of my life.
Do you know any rituals or things that I can do?
Happy Holidays!"
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Hi Joanne,
Thank you for your positive feedback. We love hearing from our Love On Purpose Community.
We do believe in the power of ritual and even more important the power of INTENTION.
So much suffering in the world occurs from abdicating our own power. We commend you for asking for guidance to start
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How can I be more social?
This week's question comes from Lee Ann:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My last relationship ended almost 4 months ago. I'm finding that I have a strong tendency and desire to isolate. I feel really good when I'm completely alone with no demands on me, or pressure to do or be anything other than what and where I am at that time. And when the tough feelings come up, I'm able to be completely with them right away and love myself. When I go out to the store or for a walk, I'm happy to see people and smile, and it feels like I'm in a relaxed place of peace. But I'm worried that this isolating tendency with no desire to plan social get-togethers or go out socially isn't good for
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Why do I take his behavior personally?
This week's question comes from Clare:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all your work on the subject of love. I read your notes regularly and have been working on my blocks for some years now. I have recognized some of my dating patterns and have become more conscious of my feelings.
3 months ago I met a wonderful guy. A connection we both cherished and appreciated. However in the last week there seems to be a shift. We've had little 'discussions' about household chores: he's very set in his ways and I have spoken about this and he is aware of it. He is positive with this and says we need to evolve together as we are learning about each other.
I
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