This week's question comes from Tracy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love reading your newsletter. It gives me so much hope that I can figure out my crazy love life.
I’ve done a lot of work to identify my patterns and I hope you can help me break them. I feel like I push away good men because deep inside I don’t really love myself. Also, I stay too long with nice men who just aren’t right for me.
How do I figure out how to love myself more/enough such that I don’t continue to be stuck in this pattern? I am trying to say nice things to myself like, “I deserve love,” but it doesn’t seem to be making a difference.
Please share your thoughts and
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Attract Your Soulmate
Does My Soulmate Exist?
This week's question comes from Melissa:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for years now and I really think that of all the relationship experts out there you two really tell it like it is, without all the hype and B.S.
I’ve been overcome with sadness recently thinking that perhaps my soulmate doesn’t exist and that I’m being too picky… which is something my friends and family have been telling me for years.
How do I know if I’m being too picky? That my soulmate is out there? What can I do to connect with my Beloved sooner rather than later (if he really exists).
I thank you for your honest response and I really hope you choose my
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How Do I Know If He’s ‘The One?’
This week's question comes from Donna:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your teleclasses and webinars. I'm learning so much from you both. I have a question, I've been dating this guy for about 4 months, I like him a lot, he seems to like me a lot. How do I know if he is 'The One?'
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Hi Donna,
Great question! Pay attention to how you FEEL when you are spending time with him. Are you comfortable with him? Do you feel like you can be yourself? Does he inspire you? Can the two of you communicate clearly with one another? Pay attention to how he speaks with you. When you share how you feel, does he then tell you how he feels? Does he judge your
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Does Love Equal Sacrifice?
This week's question comes from Ramada:
"Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a really wrong concept of love. I keep thinking that it means to sacrifice oneself and one's own interests and giving in to another person just to be nice. It is just very subconscious but I can feel that is just what I believe, so I have discovered that if I just change that word and stop using it at all, it becomes easier to me to know what I am feeling. I decided to change love for FUN. Because fun is always good and always the best for me and that way I can easily notice what I would like as opposed to what I think I should do. Do you have any suggestions on how to let go of the fusion I (and
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Just Friends?
This week's question comes from Perplexed:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Love the insightful advice you give so I thought I'd ask for your insight on my situation. I have been out of the dating scene for 7 years due to health challenges. Recently, I've met someone who is helping me overcome these challenges and helping me get my life back. As I've gotten to know this man, I've discovered he has many of the personal qualities I wrote down six months ago when I meditated on finding a soulmate.
In fact, it's a little unsettling to see this manifest right down to him being a great cook and loving a "green lifestyle." Although he's told me he sees me as a good friend, he also
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Another guy NOT the one?
This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m reaching out today after many years of listening to you both on your webinars and reading your blog and I’m starting to think that I have a problem that I cannot solve on my own.
It seems that no matter how interested I am at the beginning, I end up deciding that whoever I’m dating is not “The One” for me. Sometimes this happens very quickly, and sometimes it takes a few months.
I haven’t had a significant relationship for over a decade and I’m starting to worry that I’ll never find him, or I’ve already passed him over because of something that I’m doing wrong.
All of my friends are paired
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