This week's question comes from Lynnie:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I recently attended Mary Morrissey’s Dream builder live weekend. I am going after my dream this year of finding the man of my dreams who I marry and share a supportive, passionate, and growing relationship with.
Here is the interesting part, the man who frequents my dreams is actually someone who is a good friend, has been for over five years. We hike, bike, and occasionally share a dinner out. This is very random, usually more in the summer due longer days.
I have dated a few men while we have remained friends. I asked about 3 years ago if he was interested in anything more. He was not; he said he
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Attract Your Soulmate
Isn’t accidental love more romantic?
This week's question comes from Patricia:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Isn’t it more romantic when you meet someone out of the blue and sparks fly? The idea of doing all this work to find my soulmate sounds exhausting!
I would love to know what you have against romance.
Do you really believe that there’s any difference between falling in love and loving someone? If so, what is it?
Seriously confused.
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Hello Patricia,
Thanks for jumping in and giving us a challenge! We’ve heard this a lot and while Creating Love On Purpose® might sound unromantic, just the opposite is true.
Here’s what we know about the accidental, “Whoops! I slipped on a banana peel
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Can chemistry change?
This week's question comes from Kimberley:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly Love Notes for a few years now and I think I’m getting clearer on why my marriage did not work, and what I can do differently.
The problem for me is that most men I’m attracted to are much younger than me (by at least a decade and more), and they are players. I know they are not looking for a relationship. The men around my age are nice men, but I just don’t find them attractive.
My dad was a very attractive man who I now know was a womanizer. He wasn’t much for settling down and my parents divorced when I was very young. This must be part of my love blueprint and why
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Can I find lasting love at my age?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
First of all a big thank you for what you're doing! I have been following you for some time and you give the best straight-forward advice.
I have a few questions I've been wondering about.
First: I've been doing this work on my own about a year and have grown tremendously and I'm so glad I took this path. However I met somebody (lets say: "Z") last fall but found out that "Z" was taken (I then discovered that my attraction for unattainable people was just my own fear of physical intimacy and the possibility of rejection). I think I'm clear of what I want in love and in relationships. I do
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Spooked on Dating
This week's question comes from Kathy:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Rhonda Britten would say synchronicity... I am not sure. I have gone to Rhonda's fearless living seminar a year ago at Kripalu, loved it, did her 12 module/week fearless living workshop with a coach, Larissa. So many things have changed for me in the year. I went back again this past weekend.
I open my email this morning, and I have a newsletter from you! I must have gotten on your list somehow through something in my journey this year.
I am working on it, and still working with Larissa. But during this weekend at Kripalu, Rhonda brought up relationships a few times, and she brought up things that
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Is He My Soulmate?
This week's question comes from Eva:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
First off, I'd like to thank you for what you two do. Every single weekly newsletter I've read has enlightened me in a profound way.
These questions pertain to soul mates. I feel so blessed because I have met two so far in this life and we have learned a tremendous amount from each other already. I tried having a relationship with one of them twice and we realized we are in fact soul mates, but we are not destined to be lovers. We still have a very strong bond and nothing is awkward between us. He is a friend I know I will grow old with. It took a lot of time, but I am finally happy with the situation and
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