This week's question comes from Penny:
Orna and Matthew,
I am writing to you because I really admire you both. I have listened to many of your interviews and I’m clear that I want what you have. I have been on and off again with a guy...and I am clear that I want it to work out between us. I hear you say, "Don't settle" and I don't feel like I am, I really love this guy and in my heart I feel he is my soulmate. He recently broke it off with me saying that he needed time to focus on his career and that I was a distraction. I'm giving him space, but I'm not sure what else to do... in a way I feel like I'm waiting for him to realize what we have together. You two say I
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Attract Your Soulmate
Love at any age – Part II
This week's question comes from Sheila:
Thank you. I know that's the answer yet I just don't know how! That lack of truly understanding how is what cages me in, blocking me from having the self-confidence to be open to the possibility of love. Having been soooo devastated by actions of primary relationship (parents) that it destroyed my marriage. My resentment and inner rage, and the guilt and shame I clothe myself in, keeps me lonely and hungry for love. I want out of my cage into life's freedom.
Thank you for hearing me!
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Hi Sheila,
We know that you didn’t actually send in a traditional question as you responded to one of our recent Love Notes Weekly
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Should I leave?
This week's question comes from Confused:
Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a question and would really appreciate some insight. I have been with my partner for three years now. During this time we have broken up a few times for up to 1 month. We were both miserable during the break ups and ended up talking about our issues and getting back together. BUT nothing really changes. We have the same issue again a few months later. My partner has been married before for 7 years and she left him. He is older than me at 39 and I am 31. The issue has always been around commitment. I know he loves me and he spends all of his free time with me. He is a great boyfriend in the sense
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Truth! Beauty! Freedom! …& above all things – LOVE!
This week's question comes from Mindy:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really love the advice that you give and I think I’m stuck and I need your help. You always say that it’s important to select someone for a relationship that you share the same values with and I thought I did that, but it seems I didn’t.
I wrote out a list of the kind of guy I was looking for and within 2 weeks he showed up – even the kind of car that I had written down! It was like magic. Unfortunately, he seemed interested in me for a while, but his interest waned and now I find that I’m feeling anxious, and texting him all the time. Sometimes he’ll take a week to even get back to me.
So how do
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HELP! How do I online date?
This week's question comes from Michelle:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for about 1 1/2 years now, and dated one man (that I met in "real life") for approximately three months - we had amazing chemistry, but he broke it off. I was heartbroken, but now I am pretty much over him.
A couple of months after I quit seeing that guy, I started online dating. I have been at it a little over a year now. I have had a ton of dates (I would estimate approximately 15 - 20 different guys so far) mostly very nice guys with a lot going for them, but I just did not feel chemistry with them. I really try, and I dated a few of them multiple times (one for 1 1/2 months!)
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What About The List?
This week's question comes from Beth:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you as I’m really starting to see things differently since I started listening to you talk about how to create love.
After my divorce I got really clear on the kind of person I wanted to be in relationship with, I made ‘The List.’ Soon after I met a man who was an exact fit to my list. He even drove the kind of car I had written down!
I was truly amazed that this seemed to work! Exactly the kind of man I described in my list was now in my life and pursuing me for a relationship. After 6 months he proposed and I said ‘Yes!’ I really thought I had things figured out.
During
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