This week's question comes from Olivia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I don’t think I fit into your usual advice seekers. I’m an independent woman who has travelled and worked around the world. I’ve never had a problem meeting men and have had many wonderful lovers. The problem is they fall in love with me and I don’t initially start out thinking I will break their hearts, but inevitably I do.
I do want to find my soulmate, but it seems impossible to find a man who has the freedom to travel the world with me and who I want to marry.
Can I keep my freedom and find my “One?” I don’t know. It doesn’t seem possible to me. I’ve met some wonderful men who were perfect at
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Losing Your Enthusiasm for Dating?
This week's question comes from Therese:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
My enthusiasm is waning. Being a 58 year-old gal that sees the positive aspects of online dating is the sole thing that allows me to not give up hope. I have yet to meet or find any man that has any prospect of a solid relationship in my time that I have participated in online dating. This would be more than 5 years. The dating "gurus" continue to extoll that finding an eligible man is still possible. I yearn for a man that is decent, honest and interested in dating that would lead to a partnership in life.
Perhaps you can offer some guidance or words of encouragement?
Gratefully
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Willing To Take A Small Loss For HUGE Gains?
This week's question comes from Deborah:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
It’s funny to think this is the first time I’m writing directly to you as I feel like I’ve known you both for many years now through your online events and webinars.
From all that I’ve heard from you, I’m pretty sure you’ll tell me to move along and let him go, and maybe that is what I need to do… yet I find myself holding on to hope. Maybe you can show me what I did wrong.
There’s a guy I know through my small community and he is exactly what I want. He’s a prominent member of the community, smart, funny, articulate – when I see him I feel like a schoolgirl with a crush.
Basically he invites
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Told You Are TOO Emotional?
This week's question comes from Nikki:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am really struggling, and I hope you can help me. I seem to be stuck in a pattern of attracting men who seem like a good fit to start, but the relationships only last about 3-6 months. By that point, I always thought I’m supposed to relax in the relationship… when I do, the men leave me.
They all tell me some version of being drawn to my self-esteem and my confidence, and that they now find that I’m “too emotional.” It seems that when I express my true self and let my guard down, they don’t like who I really am. That I am somehow too much for them to handle.
I don’t feel that I am any more emotional
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How Do I Not Lose Faith?
This week's question comes from Alexandra:
Greetings Orna and Matthew,
I've enjoyed your love notes weekly.
My question is: How do I not lose faith/ inspiration that Love is out there for me?
Live Well.
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Dear Alexandra,
This is an important question and one that we’re sure many of our readers struggle with. Really what you’re asking is how do you keep hope alive, or where can you find inspiration.
The truth is that what we believe to be true, is what is true for us.
Yes – YOU are that powerful!
Each of us was given Free Will and it is the most powerful force in the universe. Most people want to abdicate their power because with that power
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How Do I Find A Good Man?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do I balance trying to find a good man with the need to be attracted to him? I'm trying to be open but am getting frustrated because I try to focus more on the profile online but find that I'm not physically attracted to most of them when we meet.
Thanks for your help!
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Dear Christina,
Keep the faith! You will find love. Keep making adjustments when you are not getting the results you want with online dating.
So many people write to us about their struggles with online dating. Many swear they will never use it again to find love. Others share their horror stories with us about the
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