This week's question comes from Melissa:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for years now and I really think that of all the relationship experts out there you two really tell it like it is, without all the hype and B.S.
I’ve been overcome with sadness recently thinking that perhaps my soulmate doesn’t exist and that I’m being too picky… which is something my friends and family have been telling me for years.
How do I know if I’m being too picky? That my soulmate is out there? What can I do to connect with my Beloved sooner rather than later (if he really exists).
I thank you for your honest response and I really hope you choose my
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Blocks to Love
Does Love Equal Sacrifice?
This week's question comes from Ramada:
"Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a really wrong concept of love. I keep thinking that it means to sacrifice oneself and one's own interests and giving in to another person just to be nice. It is just very subconscious but I can feel that is just what I believe, so I have discovered that if I just change that word and stop using it at all, it becomes easier to me to know what I am feeling. I decided to change love for FUN. Because fun is always good and always the best for me and that way I can easily notice what I would like as opposed to what I think I should do. Do you have any suggestions on how to let go of the fusion I (and
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Craving what you can’t have?
This week's question comes from Bridget:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hear you when you say that I am the common denominator in all of my relationships. I understand that like attracts like so that there must be something inside of me that is off because I only seem to be attracted to men I can’t have.
I know that I’m attractive and I have no problem getting dates – it’s just that the guys who like me and want a relationship with me, I’m not very interested in.
Then I meet a guy who I think is HOT – and inevitably, he is unavailable.
Why do I only want what I cannot have? How do I change whatever it is so I can settle down and start a family?
Please
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Just Friends?
This week's question comes from Perplexed:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Love the insightful advice you give so I thought I'd ask for your insight on my situation. I have been out of the dating scene for 7 years due to health challenges. Recently, I've met someone who is helping me overcome these challenges and helping me get my life back. As I've gotten to know this man, I've discovered he has many of the personal qualities I wrote down six months ago when I meditated on finding a soulmate.
In fact, it's a little unsettling to see this manifest right down to him being a great cook and loving a "green lifestyle." Although he's told me he sees me as a good friend, he also
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Another guy NOT the one?
This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m reaching out today after many years of listening to you both on your webinars and reading your blog and I’m starting to think that I have a problem that I cannot solve on my own.
It seems that no matter how interested I am at the beginning, I end up deciding that whoever I’m dating is not “The One” for me. Sometimes this happens very quickly, and sometimes it takes a few months.
I haven’t had a significant relationship for over a decade and I’m starting to worry that I’ll never find him, or I’ve already passed him over because of something that I’m doing wrong.
All of my friends are paired
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Why Do I Still Love Him?
This week's question comes from Sally:
Dear Orna & Matthew,
I started reading your emails & posts 2 years ago, and today I still find myself reliving the past everyday.
In March of 2010, I thought I had met the man of my dreams (my supervisor at work). We had a great working relationship for 6 years prior to dating. We talked and laughed everyday.
On March 4, 2010, I asked him if he would like to get together for a drink. He agreed.
For the next 2 years we saw each other everyday, but Sunday. We enjoyed going out and cooking dinner together. He even babysat my granddaughter every Tuesday.
In November of 2012 is when things started falling apart. He
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