This week's question comes from Olivia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I don’t think I fit into your usual advice seekers. I’m an independent woman who has travelled and worked around the world. I’ve never had a problem meeting men and have had many wonderful lovers. The problem is they fall in love with me and I don’t initially start out thinking I will break their hearts, but inevitably I do.
I do want to find my soulmate, but it seems impossible to find a man who has the freedom to travel the world with me and who I want to marry.
Can I keep my freedom and find my “One?” I don’t know. It doesn’t seem possible to me. I’ve met some wonderful men who were perfect at first but they wanted
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Meant to Be?
This week's question comes from Tarryn:
Dear Orna and Mathew.
I have a question if you don't mind. All these techniques, internal work, etc. are great and I truly follow it and try to practice this work. However if you're with the wrong partner (for instance if I'm with a boyfriend who isn't my match/soulmate) then I could do all the internal work in the world and we still wouldn't be able to have that soulmate/relationship we want correct?
It just frustrates me that this work is incredibly great but it really wouldn't make a difference if you're with the wrong person for you? Would love to hear your opinions. For instance, even if you would have done all this work with ex-partners
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When do you say no more?
This week's question comes from Tina:
Hello Orna and Matthew
I am in a 7-year relationship. When we met I was very busy with a new business and to be honest I was not attracted to him. He was persistent and so kind to me. Slowly his kindness started to allure me. The first time he held my hand I felt irritated then I felt I didn't really want him to let my hand go. My attraction to him grew in a way I was not familiar with. I so loved the way he adored me, and there was something I had never experienced, an aroma that I was so drawn to. I wanted to be so close to him.
This has been 7 years of pure confusion. Within a year the man that adored me, started to speak to me not very
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Should I leave?
This week's question comes from Confused:
Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a question and would really appreciate some insight. I have been with my partner for three years now. During this time we have broken up a few times for up to 1 month. We were both miserable during the break ups and ended up talking about our issues and getting back together. BUT nothing really changes. We have the same issue again a few months later. My partner has been married before for 7 years and she left him. He is older than me at 39 and I am 31. The issue has always been around commitment. I know he loves me and he spends all of his free time with me. He is a great boyfriend in the sense that treats me well and
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Can I ask him to change?
This week's question comes from Krista:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your wonderful work!
Is it okay to ask someone to change their behavior in a relationship? Is this the same thing as trying to change who someone is? I am confused about whether it's okay to ask for what I want, when it in essence requires the other person to change.
Thank You
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Dear Krista,
What a great question! We hear this from a lot of our clients. “How can I get this man I love to behave differently?”
Well, there is no magic template for getting a person to behave differently. If you discover it, please share it with us… as we would like to use it with some people we know.
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How Long To Wait For Attraction?
This week's question comes from Julia:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you both for your work ...I appreciate all you do. Question: I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know? I thought we had some chemistry but now not so sure... at least on my part. He says he is attracted to me but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very nice man but I want passion too. I don’t want to settle! Thanks.
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Hi
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