This week's question comes from Trudie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I think you two are awesome! I love watching you interact on your webinars, it’s clear that you are real people who love one another. Thank you for being a shining example of what it is that I want!
Since I read your weekly notes I know that you’re always advising to date A LOT, so that’s what I’ve been doing. Unfortunately, I am not getting the results that I want and I think I may be feeling a bit depressed about it.
I get plenty of action online and offline from guys but nothing seems to really go anywhere. I can’t remember dating someone for longer than a couple of months. Whether I’m crazy
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Dating After Divorce
Are you relying on Love By Accident?
This week's question comes from Gillian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your message about love and I truly believe you give the best dating advice. Maybe you can help me; I’ve dated a guy named Bill for 5 months. It got messy this past month he is not moving things forward and I miss him. It seems to be fizzling out on his end.
I feel sad because there was a nice connection with him.
Friends say move on yet my heart misses the connection and craves his attention.
It seems I’ve moved on so many times after 9 years of dating post divorce… I yearn for a deep satisfying connection. Right now I just feel sad.
Any thoughts?"
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Hi Gillian,
Thank
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Do I have to date to find my Beloved?
This week's question comes from Samantha:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you two for a while and I really love your very direct responses. I resonate so much with what you two share and I think you give the best dating advice. Now it’s my turn to ask a question. I sure hope you pick mine to answer! (Please pick me!)
I just don’t like dating. In fact, I hate it. I know how to date; I just don’t like it. It feels fake and phony and quite frankly I don’t meet any men that I find remotely attractive. Online is bad enough, and when I go to singles events offline there are always way more women than men and it feels yucky and competitive.
Do I have to
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Is the desire for perfection keeping you from love?
This week's question comes from Bonnie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly notes; I look forward to reading them every week. I really think you give the best dating advice. I’m not exactly sure of my question; I have been married and divorced now a long time. I have a successful business that I built from the ground up, yet and I can’t seem to figure things out in my love life.
My friends say I’m too picky and I don’t think that I am… I just don’t want to settle because I’ve been down that road before when I got married rather young and I don’t want to go through another divorce.
I know that I drive myself very hard. I have always done that. I was a
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Identify A Relationship Ready Man
This week's question comes from Virginia:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
What is the most telling indication---going in---that let's you know a man is sincere and coming from a "relationship" sort of place in life?"
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Dear Virginia,
Thank you for your very direct question. However, you cannot know “going in” whether anyone is sincere about wanting a relationship. There aren’t any secret signs that signal one man is more relationship ready than another. You’ll actually have to spend some time getting to know him to see what his intentions are.
There are, however, signs you can look for while you’re dating him (and hopefully other men as well) to know what he
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What Is A “Quality” Man?
This week's question comes from Janet:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all that you do for all us struggling out here… I think you give the best dating advice, so that’s why I’m coming to you. After my divorce I took some time to figure out what I want in a relationship and particularly a man however whenever I go out I can’t seem to find a quality man.
I know I’m a “catch” but I cannot seem to find a man who comes anywhere close to what I’m looking for.
Please help me."
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Hi Janet,
Thank you for your question and we’ll do the best we can to answer it for you. We are a bit perplexed by this label “Quality Man”…. We are wondering where
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