This week's question comes from EB:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Last summer, I filled three pages of my journal with all the traits I want in my man.
Two days later, I met him! I was amazed at how he was just what I wanted. We were together for seven wonderful months. He wasn't perfect, but he was just right for me.
He was a confident, masculine man who treated me like a queen. After we hit a small rough patch, he broke up with me. Via e-mail. I was devastated. I had done all this work on myself to clear my blocks.
A week later he reached out and admitted that he just got scared. He said being in love makes him feel thrown off. It's overwhelming. He
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
How Do I Keep the Faith?
This week's question comes from Jackie:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I recently came out of a 4-year relationship in which I felt I had so much and in the end I had to walk away from it, as he never came through with his intentions. I believe he had stopped wanting to try and stayed in the relationship for a period of time before we split, waiting for me to make decision. He moved on very quickly which hurt me even more.
I have been spending so much time trying to heal and deal with my grief, I believe the decision was right and that I will love and be loved again but it is so hard when meeting that person appears hard for me and has been so easy for him.
Can
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Overcoming Loss
This week's question comes from Brina:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
How do you move on with your life, when the love of your life, your best friend and the father of your child has passed away?
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Dear Brina,
Thank you for asking this question as this is true for anyone going through the loss of a relationship under any circumstance. The first step is to feel the loss and allow yourself time to mourn.
The mourning process takes time. Time is your best friend right now - take the time you need to feel the pain. We know that what we are asking you to do is not pleasant, nor easy, however, moving through this pain will allow you to release it and move on.
You
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Why Do I Still Love Him?
This week's question comes from Sally:
Dear Orna & Matthew,
I started reading your emails & posts 2 years ago, and today I still find myself reliving the past everyday.
In March of 2010, I thought I had met the man of my dreams (my supervisor at work). We had a great working relationship for 6 years prior to dating. We talked and laughed everyday.
On March 4, 2010, I asked him if he would like to get together for a drink. He agreed.
For the next 2 years we saw each other everyday, but Sunday. We enjoyed going out and cooking dinner together. He even babysat my granddaughter every Tuesday.
In November of 2012 is when things started falling apart. He
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How Do I Create Chemistry?
This week's question comes from Julie
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Is there a book out that is excellent and affordable on how to get a man attracted and hooked on me emotionally, intellectually and create amazing chemistry?
The man who happens to be our child's father recently told me that he is meeting up with his ex for the week. I think I may have some blocks to love. I am now 44. When I met him I got engaged right away and then after being intimate one time got pregnant. I felt very sad thinking I may have made a mistake and I wasn't having lots of chemistry with him. I didn't like that when he smiled you see mostly gums instead of teeth. Plus he doesn't like to
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Tired of being lonely…
This week's question comes from Kama:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’m a 37 yr old woman and I’ve never been married. I’ve dated a lot, but I’ve never had a relationship last much longer than a year. For some reason, whatever feelings I have for a man when we start dating don’t seem to last. I get bored or frustrated with the situation and I end the relationship.
The problem is I really want to spend my life with my soulmate, but I’m afraid I’m never going to find him. I’m just so tired of being lonely. Part of me believes I should just settle for the next decent guy who wants to marry me…
I don’t know what to do, and would appreciate any help you can send my
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